I
have realized that in any relationship, you've got
to show your feelings; love for one another.
I've learnt
that when your partner is in an agitated mood, just
keep quiet, be cool and respond later.
I've observed
that people who normally come on strong, are the
ones with fewer successful relationships.
I've learnt
that every woman likes to have her own home, since
it is where she is in Charge. She can do it up her
own way to satisfy her creative instincts.
I've learnt
that it is important for good-looking women to differentiate
between a Genuine and a flattering compliment.
I've learnt
that everybody likes to be asked their opinion.
I've learnt
that when you love a woman, you must meet her as
often as possible.
I've learnt
that no one respects you unless you respect yourself.
I've learnt
that a man who believes he knows all is the biggest
fool around.
I feel apprehensive
of women who benchmark me against their father or
husband.
Love is letting
your beloved be what she is rather than what you'd
like her to be.
I've realized
that you must have, amongst your best friends, someone
you've grown up with.
I've learnt
that a married woman who knows you find her attractive,
needs to be told just that to put her at ease.
I've realized
that you might not always marry the person you love.
True love, is being there, willing to help, without
expecting something in return.
I've realized
that perfectionists tend to be more critical and
judgmental of others.
Having married
a woman, it's better not to worry about her past
as long both of you are enjoying post-marital bliss.
I've learnt
that one way of disarming a person is to say 'Help
me understand'.
I've learnt
that a partner must help you leverage your strengths
and overcome your weaknesses.
While dealing
with people there would be some who criticize you,
genuinely or to protect their own interests. Believe
in yourself, internalize the criticism, change as
much as you are happy with. Always stand up for
what you believe in or else you would lose self-esteem.
Do not try and change yourself beyond a point, otherwise
you would be unhappy always trying to project yourself
as something you are not.
I've learnt
that hassi mazaak mein I can communicate much more
than with a straight face.
Remember to
be on good terms with head-hunters. Maloom nahin
when you might need a job.
I've seen
that by being the helpful type, most people reciprocate
when asked for help.
I've seen
that neighbors keenly observe your change in status
and their perception of you changes accordingly.
Most of us
have at some point wooed and courted. I do not reciprocate
another’s feelings, when I am not interested. In
other words, I've learnt not to lead others up the
garden path. After all, would I like someone to
do the same to me?
I've seen
men who get attracted to women elder to them, are
mostly, very attached to their mothers. Probably,
the woman protects her man and nurtures the child
in him just like a mother would.
I've learnt
that to love and be loved, is the greatest joy in
the world.
I've learnt
that happier are those who forgive and forget.
When your
wife has been, for years, used to having you back
from work at 9 p.m. and suddenly start coming at
7 p.m. both of you need to learn to spend the extra
time usefully or else you could end up fighting.
I've learnt
that love is a two-way street.
I've learnt
that love is all about sharing and caring.
I've learnt
that women are emotionally stronger than men.
I've realized
that while wooing a woman there is no such thing
as a fool-proof strategy. The best of plans may
go awry. My advice is just play it by ear; be sensitive
and sharp.
I've learnt
that to win over a good-looking woman, you must
compliment her on her intelligence and be persevering.
I've learnt
that a friend is one with whom you can chat without
feeling apprehensive of being judged.
I've realized
that excessive wooing could boomerang. Sometimes
it pays to momentarily ignore your sweetheart. If
she likes you, the phone will ring.
The men who
love from a distance get left behind.
I've learnt
that one learns more by listening than by talking.
I've learnt
that it pays more to be assertive than aggressive.
I've observed
that in a joint family, immature is the wife who
compares herself with her unmarried sister-in-law.
There will always be a different set of rules for
the daughter and the daughter-in-law.
I've learnt
that you must know when to put the phone down.
I've learnt
that insecurity breeds jealousy.
While studying
for your exams, some college or building friends
might try to demoralize you by talking about how
hard they study or questioning you on subjects you
do not know. I've learnt to spot such friends and
isolate them. My advice is; go by your schedule,
look at the number of quality hours spent studying
and not the number of hours.
I've realized
that sharing your vulnerability with your sweetheart
helps cement the relationship.
I've realized
that inspite of what ever you might do, every woman
wants to hear those golden words - I Love You -.
I've realized
that an attractive woman knows exactly what's going
on in a man's mind.
I've learnt
that a victory won by humiliation leaves scars of
resentment. It is smarter to strategically win over
the weak.
I've realized
that if you want to marry woman who has not made
up her mind or is just too pre-occupied with her
own plans, don’t pop the all-important question
but handle her gently, be there for her and may
be she’ll be yours.
I've realized
that getting emotional in an argument makes one
behave irrationally and lose sight of the big picture.
I've realized
that some Veejays perpetually crave for attention,
apprehensive that their popularity might decline
if people don't notice them.
I've realized
that two individuals, even after the fiercest of
fights can continue to be friends for life.
I've realized,
that on meeting a TV personality of my dreams, I
could act fresh, trip and perhaps even fall if I
didn’t hold myself together.
I've learnt
that people who are not good listeners get isolated,
come on strong and believe that they are the best.
I've learnt
that every person must believe in himself but at
the same time be willing to accept criticism, internalize
it and change himself accordingly.
I've learnt
that marrying a Siamese twin can make life boring,
but marrying a 50 % opposite could add value and
make life interesting.
I've learnt
that Arien women enjoy the company of men who will
take charge of their lives, but get married to men
whose lives they can take charge of.
I've learnt
that eight out ten women reject guys who fall head
over heels in love with them and express their feelings
too soon.
I've found
Arien women clinging to the phone when they are
feeling low, wanting to be heard but being crisp
and to the point when they are on a high.
I've learnt
that most women like their men to be gutsy.
I've seen
many attractive women use their charm to get a guy
let his guard down. My advice is be careful, try
getting into a give and take situation.
I've learnt
that women like their partners to be good listeners.
I've learnt
that disagreement or anger can be better communicated
through tone of voice or silence than by raising
one’s voice.
I've learnt
that human behavior during childhood and old age
is similar.
Marriage
is all about companionship, sharing, giving your
partner space and being there for one another.
Husbands
and wives have to continuously work on their relationship,
add value, juice and spice to it.
I would tend
to ignore women who want to date me on the phone
and not for dinner.
Couples who
do not take each other for granted, respect each
other's views, agree to disagree are likely to have
a happy married life.
Be in touch
with your friends during your ups and downs. It
will help build lasting relationships.
Some friends
might not talk to me for months, yet I know they
will be the first to help me get out of a problem.
Isn't that what friendship is all about?
Trusting
one another is only the first step in a lasting
relationship.
Most women
are busy assessing the guy on the first date and
may probably talk about themselves on the second
or third one.
Always remember
to return favors. You will have more people wanting
to oblige you.
Having got
married, many of my friends continue to meet attractive
women. While they cannot marry all of them, they
can enjoy their company, become friends, be there
for them and may be lots more.
While selecting
your life partner, you have to go by your gut feel,
rather than being logical and rational about it.
I've learnt
that when you are unhappy or angry with someone,
let it be known. If you do not vent your feelings,
tension builds up within. Two things could happen.
Either you could get into an argument and get it
out of your system or your behavior will subconsciously
reflect the anger.
I've observed
that most women seldom reciprocate love immediately.
They like to be pursued, wooed with chocolates and
roses before they warm up to you.
I've seen
many a married man behaving very differently in
the presence and absence of their wives. There are
others who are uncomfortable taking their friends
home. Both these behavioral patterns reflect on
quality of the relationship a person shares with
his family.
